Oh you have a very valid point. Obviously this is just one small snippet of my story (and for the record, I am not usually one of those "Well, but..." people, even though I'm doing that right now). We had had a pact to consult eachother on any big financial decisions over $500 (purchases, sales, etc), and his giving up the practice was the fourth time he'd made his decision and expected me to get on board.

Perhaps our story would have ended differently, if when I told him that those actions resulted in me feel invalidated and like I didn't matter nor was I an equal partner in the marriage, he had made the effort to hear the hurt I was attempting to communicate rather than defensively justify his actions. But, sadly, that's not how it played out. If he had told me, "Here's what I'm thinking I need to do, and here's why," and we had discussed the ramifications together, that would have been a different story.

Thank you for you perspective.