Thank you for such a thoughtful and heartfelt response, Ed. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said; Therapy is a great "tune-up;" When 2 people who are willing to work on it, relationships can change for the better —which of course doesn't guarantee that you'll stay together; and that my ex certainly clung to his narrative.

And while I am relieved to no longer be in that relationship, there is still a lot of residual guilt that I couldn't fix it, or make things better. I'm working on letting that go.

Thank you again for your insightful comment.